I’ll
probably catch some slack for writing this but I think it has to be said. Anyone
who knows me knows I love and respect the ladies more so than I do my “bros”.
While we love to chant, “bros before hoes”, mine remains ‘bros before hoes
until the hoes show’. All jokes aside, I admire and even revere women as I have
stated in my book, Everything She Wants and Everything He Can Give, and I like
to believe that I am ideologically at the forefront of the women’s rights
movements, but it is creeping between extremism and borderline insanity in my
opinion. I’m particularly referring to the push by some activists for the ban
of certain words when referring to women. Words like “bossy” and “bitchy”.
While the latter is definitely derogatory it still represents one’s freedom of
expression.
Let’s start
with ‘bossy’ which has recently been categorized by some as an unacceptable way
referring to a woman in charge. Well, it is true that some people, both men and
women, have and will continue to use it to unfairly to refer to women who are
in control of themselves, their careers, and in a lot of cases the people
around them (which is their jobs by the way), it still does describe some
people accurately, both men and women, who are just that, bossy. If every
adjective that we find offensive is no longer PC (politically correct) there
will be ridiculous amounts of lawsuits being filed in the work place pretty
soon. Not just by women, but soon men will start defining phrases that we deem
offensive too. We’d all be walking on eggshells for fear of expression and
people will learn to pretend and hide their genuine selves even more and you
may never know that the guy beside you is truly a perv.
I know a
few very bossy men and women, and I was talking about someone recently and the
person has a way of dictating rather than suggesting. When I was looking for
the word to describe the attitude, I found myself being self conscious of using
that term bossy to describe the person so as to remain PC. I ended up saying
the person is somewhat brash and doesn’t know how to talk to people, which is
way worse than what I intended to say which is simply ‘bossy’. For a few days I
felt like a gossip because I didn’t agree with what I said. In fact, it is
outright false. The person is very loving but cannot help but talk to people
with a sense of authority, even when the authority is no longer or was never
there to start with.
Now to the
word “bitchy”; I don’t know about you but I have met a few people that fall
under that category in my lifetime. The same way some guys are ‘dicks’ (some
would say I fall under that category at times), some women are bitches. I’m
sorry. While we should always try to be cordial to each other and all that, the
reality is some people don’t deserve that courtesy because they don’t offer it
to others either.
